How Fast Should You Go From Online Dating To Real Life?

These days, when people are looking to begin dating or meeting new people, they will often give online dating a go.

It’s a great way to meet people who are actively telling you that they’re interested in dating.

It’s also a great way to meet more people then you would in your average week going about your day-to-day life.

But the question I often get asked is how quickly do you move a connection created online to meeting in real life?

Do you want to meet as soon as you connect?

Or do you want to build the connection online first?

As someone who has done quite a bit of online dating in the past, I’ve experienced both, and so I know from first hand experience what works, and what doesn’t, and it might not be what you’re expecting.

So how fast should you wait before moving an online connection into the real world? Watch the video now to find out…

AND if you scroll down, I’ve got a special little message to share with you after today’s episode of LPPTV, with an exciting announcement.

Tweet the Love… As Soon As You’ve Established Interest, Find A Way To Meet @LovePPassion

…and here’s the little announcement that I wanted to share with you as it’s very much connected to today’s episode of LPPTV…

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you done much online dating? Have you waited to connect in person, or have you met straight away? What has your experience been? Which has worked better for you? Which do you think would work best from your experience? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 24 - When Does 1+1 in a Relationship Not Equal 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

When Does 1+1 in a Relationship NOT Equal 2?

LPPTV Episode 24 - When Does 1+1 in a Relationship Not Equal 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionGenerally speaking we’ve come to expect that 1+1 equals 2.

So in the majority of monogamous relationships, it would be reasonable to expect that the same principe would apply.

But the reality is that in relationships 1+1 does not always equal 2.

Sometimes it equals 2.

Sometimes it equals 0.

Sometimes it equals way MORE than 2.

So how does this work?

How do you avoid 1+1 equalling 0?

…and how do you create a relationship where 1+1 adds up to WAY more than 2?

Watch the video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… The Relationships Where 1+1 = Way More Than 2 Are Where The Magic Is @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you ever had a situation like the one I described in the video? Have you had 1+1 that equals zero? Have you ever experienced what it’s like to have 1+1 add up to way more than 2? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 22 - Is Commitment Killing Your Relationship?

Is Commitment Killing Your Relationship?

LPPTV Episode 22 - Is Commitment Killing Your Relationship? In my experience, the majority of people at some point in their life will be looking for a long-term, committed relationship.

Someone to spend the rest of their days with.

Someone to grow old with.

Someone to share their life with.

Someone to marry.

Someone to have children with.

Someone who will be there forever.

We get told from the age we can understand words all about ‘happily ever after’, the holy grail of relationships.

…and most people, including relationship experts, will tell you that commitment is a good thing in a relationship.

So today, I’m going to be just a little bit controversial and say that commitment isn’t always a good thing.

In fact, commitment could be killing your relationship.

Want to know why? Watch the video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… If You Want Your Partner To Show Up Tomorrow, You Have To Show Up Today @LovePPassion

…and before you start wondering whether I am telling you NOT to be committed in a relationship, it’s not quite as simple as that. But what I will say that if you try what I’ve shared in the video, it has the capacity to transform your relationship completely. This has worked magic for several of my clients and has transformed my own relationship.

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you every considered whether commitment could be causing problems in your relationship? Do you recognise any of the situations I mentioned in the video? Have you been desperate to get commitment from your partner, and has it pushed them away? How did you deal with it? Have you tried what I talk about in the video? How did it change things for you? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 21 - Is there any such thing as the one

Is There Any Such Thing As ‘The One’?

LPPTV Episode 21 - Is there any such thing as the oneIs he the one for me?

Is she the one for me?

I have been asked by both the young and the old whether there is any such thing as ‘the one’.

In our culture, we seem to be fixated on finding ‘the one’, that one special person who is a perfect fit for us.

…and we tend to believe that if we find ‘the one’ that everything else will be relatively easy. If a relationship is challenging, we can assume that we’ve made a mistake, that they’re not ‘the one’ and therefore want to move on to someone else, afraid we’re wasting our time with the wrong person and that we might be missing out on finding our ‘one’.

I too was always trying to analyse if the person in my life was ‘the one’. For years, each relationship I was constantly checking, analysing, judging…was the person I had in front of me my ‘one’?

I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve had the conversation “Is there any such thing as the one?” and most people have asked themselves this question at some point or another, but rarely do they find an answer.

Have you always been on the look out for the right person? Have you been trying endlessly to find the perfect person to spend the rest of your life with? Is this causing any problems in your current relationship? And more importantly, are you being realistic?

Would you like to know if there’s one perfect person out there for you? Watch today’s video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… Rather than looking for the one, look for the right one for right now @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you been looking for the one?  Did you think it was possible to find the perfect person? Did this cause any problems in your relationship? Are you always trying to analyse the person who is with you and trying to find out if he/she is the perfect person? Has this ruined your relationship? Have you tried what I mentioned in the video? Did it work for you?  Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 19 - Why The Grass Is Never Greener - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

Why The Grass Is Never Greener…

LPPTV Episode 19 - Why The Grass Is Never Greener - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionI’ve been there, and I’m sure you have too.

For whatever reason, your current relationship situation isn’t quite working out the way you want it to.

Maybe you’re in a relationship and having some problems.

Maybe you’re single and not enjoying it.

Maybe you’ve changed how you feel about the person you’re with.

You look around you at the other people in your life – family, friends, colleagues, even strangers – and we see what they have, and it seems so much better.

Maybe they’re single and you love the idea of all the freedom they seem to have.

Maybe they’re in a relationship that seems to be wonderful, and better than any you’ve ever experienced.

Maybe they’re having an affair and seem to be having the best of both worlds.

We look and it seems like the grass is greener in their field.

I see this all the time, this concept causes people to end their relationship and later regret it, jump into relationships that aren’t right for them, just so they’re not single any more, or choose to cheat on their partner.

But I’m here to tell you that the grass is NEVER greener.

How can I be so sure?  Watch the video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… The Grass Is Always Greener Where You Water It @LovePPassion

…and before I get a raft of comments asking if I’m saying that you should never leave a relationship, or give up your single life, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t do either of these things.  What I’m saying is before you do, consider both sides of both coins, and make sure the choice you make really is the right one for you.

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you ever looked at what someone else has and thought ‘I want that’? Has it led you to make a hasty choice, that you’ve since regretted? Have you jumped into another field to find that the grass isn’t greener, it’s just a different shade of green? Or have you changed your approach to your own relationship, and seen your own grass get greener?  Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 17 - Why Do Women Ignore Me? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

Why Do Women Ignore Me?

LPPTV Episode 17 - Why Do Women Ignore Me? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionIn the last episode of LPPTV we looked at a question which I hear from a lot of women.  This week I wanted to do an episode which speaks specifically to men.

While the issue that I talk about today affects both men and women, this question was sent into me from a man who wanted some help.

There’s nothing worse than feeling invisible or ignored.

Unless it’s by someone who you’re attracted to.

If you’re a man who is looking to date and connect with a woman, feeling like she doesn’t even know or care that you’re there can be at best uncomfortable and at worst crushing.

The worst thing about this kind of situation is that most of the time we don’t know why.

Is it about them?

Is it about us?

What can we do to change it?

So when I got this question through I am not successful and I don’t have my life together. so women always ignore me. I am 28 years old and I have no career I am stuck I need your help.” I had to do an episode of LPPTV to respond.

What do you do when it feels like women are ignoring you?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… When You Feel Good About You You Become Naturally Attractive To Others @LovePPassion

…and if after watching the video you would like to find out more about coaching and mentoring with me, then click here for more information

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever felt ignored by members of the opposite sex? How did it feel? Have you found that when you feel good about yourself that you are more attractive to people around you? Have you felt stuck in life and found that it was showing up in your relationships and dating life too? Do you agree with what I’ve shared in the video? Has this been your experience of relationships? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 16 - How Do I Keep Him? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Do I Keep Him?

LPPTV Episode 16 - How Do I Keep Him? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionI don’t know any woman who hasn’t had this thought at some point in her life.

You’re dating a man that you think is amazing.

He has all of the qualities that you’re looking for in your ideal partner.

You feel happy around him.

You believe this could be ‘The One’.

The only thing that is worrying you is, how can I make sure that he stays?

What can I do to keep him in my life?

How can I ensure that he continues to want me?

You don’t want to lose him, so what can you do?

So I was really pleased when I got this question through from Anna “Hi Claire, I’m always quite reserved with compliments, but I must say your work is always greatly appreciated, you’re doing a truly amazing job. You give hope for women like me that perhaps one man will stay in my life forever.  I’m now dating two guys, I know which one my heart is pumping towards too, but I’ve no idea how to keep him.  Secretly I want him to be mine for the rest of my life, but I do not know how to make the guys commit. I suppose I’ve always been useless with relationships. My parents say they doubt about if he’s the right man for me, do I need to listen and is it their place to voice their opinion to me?

So how do you keep him?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… Rather Than Trying to Keep Him Focus On Being The Woman The Right Man Will Adore @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever tried to keep a man? How did it feel? Did it work? Have you been focused on how to keep him, and actually found him moving further away?  Are you a man? Do you agree with what I’ve shared in the video? Has this been your experience of women and relationships? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 13 - Have You Given Up Your Passions For The Person You're Passionate About - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

Have You Given Up Your Passions For The Person You’re Passionate About?

LPPTV Episode 13 - Have You Given Up Your Passions For The Person You're Passionate About - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

We all know that passion in a relationship is important.

We want that spark that turns into a flame, which turns into fireworks.

When we begin seeing someone new, it’s easy for our passion for them to take over our lives a little bit.  We want to spend every moment with them, we want to enjoy all the time we can because the feeling they inspire us feels so great.

The challenge with this is that in doing so, we can sometimes lose sight of our own passions.

We can be so focused on our passion for the other person, and for the relationship, that our individual passions can take a back seat.

I know, I’ve done this many times in the past.

So the question is, is being passionate about your partner enough?

So today I’m answering the first part of a question from Jim: In relationships, how important is it to be passionate about something in your life (and not the other person in life)? I am/was in a relationship (I am trying to salvage it by doing some self-discovering) and would always find time for them, to be together, mostly helping her. She’s a driven entrepreneur that enjoys her alone time. She is passionate about flying, and a few other things, and she asks me my passions, and I reply, I don’t know. Now, I do have plenty of passions, (hiking, golf, fishing, flying,) and plenty of things on my bucket list (driving a race car, surfing,…), but I’ve just never acted on them. I’ve always put the other person first or my family first, sacrificing my needs (buying a boat for fishing or skiing, going on fishing trips alone, etc). Now I’m divorced and trying to have another relationship, but have stumbled on this “what am I passionate about” question.”

Do you need to have your own passions in a relationship?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… How You Treat Yourself Is How You Are Inviting Others To Treat You, You Set The Standards@LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever found yourself putting your needs, interests and passions second for the sake of your partner and your relationship? How did that work out? How has keeping your passions alive affected your relationship? Has your partner shared that they want you to maintain your own passions? Maybe you don’t know what your passions are and how to discover them? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 12 - How Can You Get Comfortable Talking To Attractive People - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Can You Get Comfortable With Talking To Attractive People?

LPPTV Episode 12 - How Can You Get Comfortable Talking To Attractive People - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWe’ve all been there.

You see someone across a room who’s really attractive, but the very thought of going up to them and starting a conversation leaves your mouth dry, your palms sweaty and your heart feeling like it’s about to leap out of your chest.

I don’t know about you, but this was something I experienced over and over and over again when I was dating.

Every time I found someone attractive I became a babbling mess around them.  I wasn’t known for my shyness, but if I saw a man I liked, my nerves took over.

In fact, when I saw someone who I thought was attractive, I’d go out of my way to avoid them because the thought of talking to them made me so nervous!

So when I saw this question posed in a Facebook group that I’m a resident relationship expert for, I realised how important it was to share how I’d overcome this challenge, and how I get my clients to do the same: WHY is it sometimes HARDER to talk with very ATTRACTIVE people… WHY does self doubt or shyness kick in and how the heck does one combat this in order to become a Master Communicator that “can talk to anyone about anything”?

How can you get comfortable with talking to attractive people?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… When You Start Talking To Everyone, You Can Then Talk To Anyone @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever found it difficult to talk to someone because you saw them as attractive? Have you had any stories to share where your nerves took over and got in the way of connecting with someone you liked? I’d love for you to try out the exercise I share in the video and share your experiences in the comments section. Or maybe when you give it a go you’ll have some questions to share.

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

…and if you’d like to watch the previous episodes of LPPTV about rejection that I mention in the video, you can find them here: Why is rejection awesome? & What does rejection really mean?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 10 - What Do You Do If A Guy Or Girl Suddenly Loses Interest? Part 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

What’s The Second Thing You Do When Someone Suddenly Loses Interest?

LPPTV Episode 10 - What Do You Do If A Guy Or Girl Suddenly Loses Interest? Part 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionLast week I began to answer a question that I get asked all the time….what do you do if a guy or girl suddenly loses interest?

It happens all the time, things seem to be going really well and all of a sudden something changes, but you’ve no idea why.

I’ve already share the first step with you (if you haven’t seen it yet, before to check it out here BEFORE you watch the video below), and it’s so important that you begin with this first step before you do step 3 in today’s video.

It’s a bit like making a cake.

If you add the ingredients in the right order, you’ll get a nice cake that you can enjoy.

If, however, you put the cake in the oven before you’ve added the eggs and sugar, the chances are that it won’t give you the best cake possible.

It’s not that the ingredients aren’t right, but the sequence is important…and the same is true in relationships.  In this situation, you can do steps 1 and 2 in any order you like…but wait for step 3 until you’ve done them!

Want to know more?  Check out the second part of my answer to the question: “What do you do if a guy or girl suddenly loses interest?”

Tweet the Love… When You’ve Got Clarity From Them, Give Clarity Back @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What has your experience of this been? Have you had a new relationship go from ‘foot on the gas’ to being shoved into reverse? What do you think of steps 2 and 3? Would these help you deal with future situations like this? Have you ever tried to do this and found challenges?  Have you any questions about this?  

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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