LPPTV Episode 14 - How Can I Be Less Needy In Relationships - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Can I Be Less Needy In Relationships?

LPPTV Episode 14 - How Can I Be Less Needy In Relationships - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWe’re all aware that neediness is not generally a very attractive quality in relationships.

At some point in our lives we’ve all experienced neediness.

We’ve either been with someone who felt insatiable when it came to their needs, it didn’t matter how much we did or how much we gave it didn’t seem enough.

Or we’ve been the person who was desperate to get or feel something from someone else, but they never seemed able to give it to us.

I’ve been on both sides of this equation at various points in my life, and there’s no perspective from which this feels good.

Either you feel that you can’t do anything to make your partner happy, or you want to feel something that never seems to appear.

So what is it that makes someone ‘needy’ in a relationship, and how can you be less needy when it comes to relationships?

So today I’m answering a question from Swets: “How can I be a less needy female?

Well the reality is that neediness shows up in men AND women, and the answer applies to both of them.

So how can you be less needing in relationships?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… In Order To Be Less Needy, Learn How To Meet Your Own Needs @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you felt needy in relationships at times?  How do you feel about it now you’ve watched the video?  Have you been with someone who felt very needy?  How did it feel to be with someone who felt needy?  Have you tried what I suggested in the video? How did it change things? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 13 - Have You Given Up Your Passions For The Person You're Passionate About - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

Have You Given Up Your Passions For The Person You’re Passionate About?

LPPTV Episode 13 - Have You Given Up Your Passions For The Person You're Passionate About - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

We all know that passion in a relationship is important.

We want that spark that turns into a flame, which turns into fireworks.

When we begin seeing someone new, it’s easy for our passion for them to take over our lives a little bit.  We want to spend every moment with them, we want to enjoy all the time we can because the feeling they inspire us feels so great.

The challenge with this is that in doing so, we can sometimes lose sight of our own passions.

We can be so focused on our passion for the other person, and for the relationship, that our individual passions can take a back seat.

I know, I’ve done this many times in the past.

So the question is, is being passionate about your partner enough?

So today I’m answering the first part of a question from Jim: In relationships, how important is it to be passionate about something in your life (and not the other person in life)? I am/was in a relationship (I am trying to salvage it by doing some self-discovering) and would always find time for them, to be together, mostly helping her. She’s a driven entrepreneur that enjoys her alone time. She is passionate about flying, and a few other things, and she asks me my passions, and I reply, I don’t know. Now, I do have plenty of passions, (hiking, golf, fishing, flying,) and plenty of things on my bucket list (driving a race car, surfing,…), but I’ve just never acted on them. I’ve always put the other person first or my family first, sacrificing my needs (buying a boat for fishing or skiing, going on fishing trips alone, etc). Now I’m divorced and trying to have another relationship, but have stumbled on this “what am I passionate about” question.”

Do you need to have your own passions in a relationship?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… How You Treat Yourself Is How You Are Inviting Others To Treat You, You Set The Standards@LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever found yourself putting your needs, interests and passions second for the sake of your partner and your relationship? How did that work out? How has keeping your passions alive affected your relationship? Has your partner shared that they want you to maintain your own passions? Maybe you don’t know what your passions are and how to discover them? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 12 - How Can You Get Comfortable Talking To Attractive People - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Can You Get Comfortable With Talking To Attractive People?

LPPTV Episode 12 - How Can You Get Comfortable Talking To Attractive People - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWe’ve all been there.

You see someone across a room who’s really attractive, but the very thought of going up to them and starting a conversation leaves your mouth dry, your palms sweaty and your heart feeling like it’s about to leap out of your chest.

I don’t know about you, but this was something I experienced over and over and over again when I was dating.

Every time I found someone attractive I became a babbling mess around them.  I wasn’t known for my shyness, but if I saw a man I liked, my nerves took over.

In fact, when I saw someone who I thought was attractive, I’d go out of my way to avoid them because the thought of talking to them made me so nervous!

So when I saw this question posed in a Facebook group that I’m a resident relationship expert for, I realised how important it was to share how I’d overcome this challenge, and how I get my clients to do the same: WHY is it sometimes HARDER to talk with very ATTRACTIVE people… WHY does self doubt or shyness kick in and how the heck does one combat this in order to become a Master Communicator that “can talk to anyone about anything”?

How can you get comfortable with talking to attractive people?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… When You Start Talking To Everyone, You Can Then Talk To Anyone @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever found it difficult to talk to someone because you saw them as attractive? Have you had any stories to share where your nerves took over and got in the way of connecting with someone you liked? I’d love for you to try out the exercise I share in the video and share your experiences in the comments section. Or maybe when you give it a go you’ll have some questions to share.

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

…and if you’d like to watch the previous episodes of LPPTV about rejection that I mention in the video, you can find them here: Why is rejection awesome? & What does rejection really mean?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 11 - How To Compromise Without Compromising Yourself - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Do You Compromise In Relationships Without Compromising Yourself?

LPPTV Episode 11 - How To Compromise Without Compromising Yourself - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWhen the topic of conflict in relationships comes up, the other ‘C’ word is often not far behind.

Compromise.

The challenge with compromise is that it often brings with it a feeling of needing to ‘give something up’, losing something, or compromising who we are and it can often leave us feeling a bit resentful.

When you look at some of the dictionary definitions associated with compromise, it’s no surprise that we can feel that way when we’re looking at “the expedient acceptance of standards that are lower than is desirable.”

Standards that are lower than desirable, hmm, I wonder why we’re not so keen on taking that path?!

So what happens when we have a difference of opinion, we want different things, or our needs conflict?  How do we navigate through that without feeling like we’re losing out?

The question is, “How Do You Compromise Without Compromising Yourself?”

Tweet the Love… When You Know Your Individual Ideals, You Can Find What’s Ideal For The Relationship @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you felt resentful in the past when ‘needing to compromise’? Have you felt that you’ve compromised yourself? What situations have you felt that you ‘should’ compromise in? How would this approach change your feeling about compromising? What do you think about this new approach to challenging situations? Would this help you deal with future situations of this nature? Have you ever tried to do this and found challenges?  Have you any questions about this?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 10 - What Do You Do If A Guy Or Girl Suddenly Loses Interest? Part 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

What’s The Second Thing You Do When Someone Suddenly Loses Interest?

LPPTV Episode 10 - What Do You Do If A Guy Or Girl Suddenly Loses Interest? Part 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionLast week I began to answer a question that I get asked all the time….what do you do if a guy or girl suddenly loses interest?

It happens all the time, things seem to be going really well and all of a sudden something changes, but you’ve no idea why.

I’ve already share the first step with you (if you haven’t seen it yet, before to check it out here BEFORE you watch the video below), and it’s so important that you begin with this first step before you do step 3 in today’s video.

It’s a bit like making a cake.

If you add the ingredients in the right order, you’ll get a nice cake that you can enjoy.

If, however, you put the cake in the oven before you’ve added the eggs and sugar, the chances are that it won’t give you the best cake possible.

It’s not that the ingredients aren’t right, but the sequence is important…and the same is true in relationships.  In this situation, you can do steps 1 and 2 in any order you like…but wait for step 3 until you’ve done them!

Want to know more?  Check out the second part of my answer to the question: “What do you do if a guy or girl suddenly loses interest?”

Tweet the Love… When You’ve Got Clarity From Them, Give Clarity Back @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What has your experience of this been? Have you had a new relationship go from ‘foot on the gas’ to being shoved into reverse? What do you think of steps 2 and 3? Would these help you deal with future situations like this? Have you ever tried to do this and found challenges?  Have you any questions about this?  

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 9 - What Do You Do If A Guy Or Girl Suddenly Loses Interest? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

What do You Do If A Guy Or Girl Suddenly Loses Interest?

LPPTV Episode 9 - What Do You Do If A Guy Or Girl Suddenly Loses Interest? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionThere’s nothing worse.

Things have been going really well.

You’ve been seeing someone for a while and all of the signs have been really great.  You’ve been seeing each other all the time, texting, calling they even brought up the topic of exclusivity.

But then it happens.

Nothing.

Nada.

Total Crickets.

All of a sudden the person who seemed really interest in you suddenly loses interest.

You don’t understand what’s happened and why – what’s changed?

Do you contact them?  Do you leave it?  Do you ‘take the hint?’

I hear from a lot of people who have been through or are going through exactly this situation, so when I got this week’s question through from Ola, I had to do an episode of LPPTV on it…

“What do you do if a guy or girl suddenly loses interest?”

Tweet the Love… When You Have a Concern In A Relationship, First Get Clarity @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What has your experience of this been? Have you had a new relationship go from ‘foot on the gas’ to being shoved into reverse?  Have you had someone who seems to have suddenly disappeared from the face of the earth? Have you been left wondering what to do?  Have you tried what I suggested in the video?  Did it help?  Have you any questions about this?  What do you think steps 2 and 3 will be?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 8 - What Does Rejection Really Mean? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

LPPTV Episode 8 – What Does Rejection Really Mean?

LPPTV Episode 8 - What Does Rejection Really Mean? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionThis week has been pretty interesting.  I was interviewed for a documentary called “Love in Your Pocket”, which is all about how technology is affecting our experience of dating.

I was asked a lot of questions and some really interesting topics came up, one of which seemed too important not to share via LPPTV.

I’ve spoken about rejection before here on LPPTV, but it’s such a hot topic in the world of dating I’m not surprised it’s come up again so soon.

I regularly speak to both men and women around the world, people who are single and in relationships, and the fear of rejection is an issue that comes up time and time again.

So in today’s episode, I answer the question “What does rejection really mean?”

Tweet the Love… The Number 1 Rule in Relationships, Choose Someone Who Chooses You @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What has your experience of this been? Have you taken ‘rejection’ to heart and made it mean something about you, like I did? Has this alternative way of viewing ‘rejection’ shown you a different perspective on a past situation? Have you focused on your own sense of self-worth, and has it affected how you feel about someone walking away from you? What has improving your self-esteem done for you in relationships? Has this video brought up a question for you?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 7 - How Do You Know When You're Ready To Move On? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

LPPTV Episode 7 – How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Move On?

LPPTV Episode 7 - How Do You Know When You're Ready To Move On? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWhenever you come out of a long term relationship, whether it was your choice or not, it can take some time to get to the point where you’re ready to date again.

We can go through the process as if we’re grieving, because we’ve ‘lost’ something.  Either something that we had, or the potential of what the relationship could have been.

It can take time, space and some deep reflection to process the emotions and the experiences to get yourself to a point where you’re ready to begin dating and considering a new relationship.

Unfortunately though, there’s no indicator light that comes on when you’re ready.  There’s no bell that sounds to say ‘That’s it! You’re done, you’ve healed enough and you can begin seeing people again’…so it can be hard to know when the time is right for you.

Having worked with single people I know that many people begin dating again before they’re ready, mainly because they don’t know how to tell.

So today I answer the question sent to me by Steph after she saw a previous episode of LPPTV, “LOVE this Claire Brummell! I think this is particularly the case after divorce I am starting to think, but energetically you need to be truly and fully apart from someone in order to make space for the new. I would love it if you could do a video on when you know you are ready to move on? THANK YOU!”

Tweet the Love… When To Move On? When You’ve Let Go Of The Past, Connected To the Present and Feel Ready For Your Future @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What has your experience of this been? Have you moved on before you were ready and had challenges as a result of it?  What are your answers to these questions? Have you been able to get to a point where you could answer yes to all of the questions, and how has that changed your dating experience? Would you like to know how to move forward in one or more of the areas? What are the challenges you’re facing with this?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 6 – What Is Polarity?

LPPTV Episode 6 - What Is Polarity? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWhen I was first learning about relationships, there was one concept in particular that completely transformed both how I saw myself, and my understanding of relationships.

It was the understanding that led me to launch my first website, Feminine 1st, and it’s a crucial part of the work I teach today.

It’s also the concept that is least known and understood by most of the people I work with.

It’s a concept that isn’t talked about much, and I’d never heard of before I began my own journey in learning about relationships several years ago.

It’s also one of the things I get asked about most when people learn that my business is called “Love Polarity & Passion”

In this episode of LPPTV I answer the question “What Is Polarity?”

Tweet the Love… Polarity Is The Natural Magnetic Attraction Between The Masculine and The Feminine @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What has your experience of this been?  Have you experienced this magnetic attraction to someone who is your polar opposite? Have you experienced two masculine energies pushing each other away? Can you see now what has been missing in your relationship? Have you got any questions about Polarity, Masculine and Feminine? What are the challenges you’re facing with this?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 5 - Why Is Rejection Awesome? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

LPPTV Episode 5 – Why Is Rejection Awesome?

LPPTV Episode 5 - Why Is Rejection Awesome? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWhen working with men and women around the world the one fear that comes up time and time and time again is ‘rejection’.

Everyone seems to be afraid of rejection.

In fact, most people are downright terrified of it.

People will do almost anything to avoid rejection: Twist themselves into a pretzel to be the person they think someone else will want, hide the ‘real them’ in case the other person doesn’t appreciate them…even avoid relationships completely!

Now these might seem like extreme tactics, but in my experience most people have done at least one of these things at some point in their lives.

All because they didn’t want to be rejected.

But I think that rejection has had a bad rap.  In fact, I think rejection could become your best friend and ally in the world of dating and relationships.

I’d even go so far as to say that rejection can be AWESOME.

Have I lost my marbles?

You’ll have to watch the video to find out…

Tweet the Love… Celebrate The Wrong Person Walking Away, They’re Making Space For The Right One @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What has your experience of this been?  Have you been rejected by someone, only to find someone later who seems so much more right for you?  Have you been distraught at the end of a relationship, only to realise later that actually it’s been the best thing to happen to you?  Are you grateful that someone has rejected you in the past, because it helped you find the person you were meant to be with?  Are you currently struggling with rejection, and do you have any questions about how to deal with it? What are the challenges you’ve faced with rejection?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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