Worst Valentine's Day Ever

Can a disasterous Valentine’s Day actually be a good thing? I should know…

Worst Valentine's Day EverValentine’s isn’t always all hearts and flowers

Valentine’s Day can be wonderful.

If you choose to spend it with the person who you love, enjoying and indulging in the wonderful connection that you have, it can be magical.

If you’re alone, it can be difficult.

If your partner walked out on you unexpectedly the night before, it can be devastating.

I know.

Several years ago, this was how I spent Valentine’s Day.

At 11pm on February 13th, the man who I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with walked out on me unexpectedly.

I was in shock.

I was waiting for the punch line.

Surely this was just a bad joke. A very very bad joke.

But it wasn’t.

It was real.

It was painful.

It was heart-breaking.

The bottom fell out of my world.

When he walked out of the door, he took with him my partner, my best friend, my business mentor, my technical team, and the vast majority of my savings account.

I felt completely and totally alone.

My romantic life was in tatters, my business was up in the air, my financial stability had been removed and my confidence was in ruins.

My Worst Valentine’s Day Ever…

I woke up, Valentine’s morning feeling like I’d hit rock bottom.

I cried, I talked, I cried, I vented and cried even more.

Most of my friends and close family members were either married, in long-term relationships or having babies.

At that point it felt like I was a million miles away from “happily ever after”.

I was done.

For the first time in a long time I realised I didn’t want to be in a relationship.

I’d spent the last 10-15 years of my life pretty much going from one relationship to the next, without much time for me in between, and it felt like it was now my time.

Having spent so much time with other people, I’d lost touch a little with my ‘Inner Claire.’ What did she want? What did she need? What was important to her? How did she want to spend her time? What did she want to do?

It was time to find out.

So I decided to go on a bit of a journey of discovery. Learning more about myself, learning how to become my own best friend, learning to love myself, exactly as I was.

Spending quality time with me.

Going out dancing, travelling, spending time with friends, visiting places I loved, meditating, journaling…doing the things I loved, and enjoying them!

By spending this time making my life ‘All about me,’ I was feeling fulfilled in a way that I hadn’t done in years.

I was happy, having fun, enjoying life.

I was absolutely beaming, and everywhere I went, people were remarking about how I was radiating this great energy. I kept hearing that I was bringing a certain ‘sparkle’ when I entered a room.

After a while it occurred to me that it’s because for the first time in a long time I was being me. Unashamedly, unreservedly, undeniably me.

It was transforming how I felt, the work I was doing, the experiences I was having, and the people I was coming into contact with.

All of a sudden I realised that by being all of me, I was giving them permission to be all of them too.

Everywhere I went people were being magnetically drawn to my energy.

And not just any people, the people who I wanted to spend time with. The ones I resonated with, the kindred spirits, the soul sisters and brothers; my kinda people.

So I asked myself, what had changed? Why was I all of a sudden attracting a different kind of person into my life?

If it was happening with friends, would it start happening with men too?

And then it happened. The lightbulb moment.

In the work I was doing with women and men from around the world, I saw a pattern.

Those who were struggling to attract the kind of relationship they really wanted were following certain behaviours. More importantly those who had attracted the relationship they’d always desired WEREN’T following these same behaviours.

A Different Story

Suddenly the answers to so many questions became clear. Why I’d been attracting relationships that were doomed to failure, why I’d struggled to find any masculine men, where I’d been going wrong for all these years, why I couldn’t find love.

When I recognised the mistakes that both I and so many other women were making I started to change my approach to dating, and to men in general.

At that point everything began to change.

Not long after the most incredible man appeared in my life, and being conscious of avoiding these mistakes transformed the experience of dating for us.

That was some time ago now, and he and I are now travelling the world, living the life we’ve always wanted, and sharing the experience of helping others to transform their relationship lives.

He is everything I wanted in a man and more, our connection is deeper, more real, more intimate and more passionate than any man I’ve been with before.

This is the best relationship I’ve ever experienced in my life and we couldn’t be happier. What’s interesting is that without the Valentine’s Day from hell, I wouldn’t be where I am now.

So it turns out the worst V-Day ever, was actually the best gift I could have asked for.

Something to think about…

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

Why Does Heartbreak Hurt So Much?

Broken-HeartLast week I shared that December is known as the annual breakup season, and a lot of people shared how the article had come at the perfect time for them, because they were dealing with a recent break up themselves.

When I started hearing this, it took me back to some of my own personal experiences of heartbreak.

If a relationship has ended, at some level it wasn’t working. If you’re truly honest with yourself, I’m sure you don’t want to be in a relationship where you’re unhappy and unfulfilled or in a relationship where the other person is unhappy or unfulfilled, for whatever reason, because we know deep in our hearts that neither of those scenarios make for a good relationship in the long term. But that doesn’t stop it from hurting….and hurting deeply.

I know. I’ve experienced it first-hand many times.

…and I can vividly recall the times where I’ve felt like the bottom had fallen out of my world.

My experience with heartbreak…

Those moments in time where it felt like an effort just to keep breathing in and out.

The pain, the sadness, the numbness, the confusion, the fear…the complete and total overwhelm of experiencing so many emotions and thoughts at the same time, and not being able to make sense of any of them.

Mind and heart reeling, with no way out, only through.

When I brought these moments of my life to mind, I started to think about heartbreak, and why it hurts so much. As soon as I asked this question, two answers came to me.

The first you’ll no doubt have heard before. The second may be a bit of a surprise…

So why does heartbreak hurt so much?

So the first answer that came to me is that we’re experiencing a loss, which brings with it a sense of grief.

Whether a relationship has come to an end because we’ve chosen to end it, because someone else has chosen to end it, or because it’s been mutually decided that it’s for the best, we are still losing something.

We may not be grieving for the relationship as it was, but instead for the relationship that we thought it was going to be, the relationship it had the potential to be, or the relationship we wanted it to be.

It might seem strange to be grieving for something that you’ve never actually had…but losing the POSSIBILITY of something, is still a loss, and we still experience a sense of grief when the possibility appears to be no more.

We miss the other person…or maybe we don’t, maybe we miss who they used to be, who we thought they were, or who we thought they would become.

Whatever it is that we’re losing, whether it’s was something we had, something we thought we had, or something we thought we were going to have, it’s important to honour the fact that we will experience a sense of grief when the loss becomes a reality.

Most people have heard of the 5 stages of grief (or the Kübler-Ross model) where you go through denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance…but what most people don’t know is that the best way through all the stages, is to fully experience each stage, feel complete with it and then transition through to the next stage…in the timeframe that is right for you.

Do you allow yourself to ‘go through’ heartbreak?

When it comes to heartbreak though, a lot of people don’t allow themselves to go through this grieving process fully…they expect to just ‘feel better’ at some point, get told to snap out of it by someone trying to ‘help’, or distract themselves from really experiencing the feeling because it’s uncomfortable (whether that’s through alcohol, TV, another relationship or any other way to avoid the feelings)…and therefore get ‘stuck’ in one stage.

As I’ve said before, when you’re in this kind of emotional experience, the best way out of it really is through it…allowing yourself to fully feel each aspect of what you’re experiencing in order that you can then release it.

So if you’re in it right now, start to notice where you might be wanting to avoid or distract yourself from how you’re really feeling…because that in itself can be keeping you ‘in it’ and preventing you from moving through it to the other side.

The second answer that came to me when I asked the question “Why does heartbreak hurt so much?” hit me hard.

Because it was probably one of the hardest things for me to understand and begin to accept about my own experiences with heartbreak…and it was also the single, most powerful realisation that transformed my experience with heartbreak forever.

So join me again next week where I will be sharing the insight that changed how I experience heartbreak…and which helped me reach the point where, I began to eventually be able to see each one as a gift.

…and if you’re currently dealing with a break up and you’d like to find out how I might be able to help you through it, then either send me an email: claire@lovepolarityandpassion.com or book a discovery session here to get some help and support when dealing with heartbreak during the holiday season.

With Love,

Claire x

Would you like to know how to avoid the annual breakup season?

breakupThe festive season can be wonderful.

…it can also be a really challenging time of year.

Family commitments, present-buying, Christmas parties, money-worries, end of year deadlines…

It’s a recipe for a stress-cocktail.

It’s no surprise that according to Facebook, December is the month of the year with the highest number of breakups.

The problem with stress is that we have a tendency to take it out on the people who are closest to us. They are the people who see every side of us…the good, the bad and the very ugly.

We don’t put on pretenses for those who are closest to us…and we don’t tend to pull our punches.

You see, when we’re under stress our bodies jump into fight or flight mode.

Why is this the annual breakup season?

We learned our stress responses many years ago when ‘stress’ was caused by coming face-to-face with a saber-toothed tiger or a woolly mammoth. It was a matter of survival. Us or them.

Unfortunately our stress responses have not evolved with our lives…so we get the same rush of adrenaline and hormones when dealing with an urgent deadline as we did when being considered as a Paleolithic beast’s lunch.

So when we feel stress we see the world as a threat…including our partner.

When we see someone or something as a threat, all compassion and understanding tends to fly out of the nearest window. We have two go-to responses; protect & defend ourselves, and attack.

…and when one person gets defensive or confrontational, the other person often isn’t far behind.

So how can we avoid the stress-loop that often leads to a breakup?

The biggest problem when we enter this stress-pattern is that we forget that we are on the same side.

We’re on the same team.

They aren’t your adversary, they’re your team-mate.

Think about a football team. How successful do you think a team would be if they spent all their time tackling each other rather than focusing on the opposition, or the goal?

Not very.

You see, our response to stress often has us drawing battle lines against the person with whom you could instead be creating a battle strategy WITH.

So if you notice yourself dropping into ‘confrontation mode’ with your partner, here are a few simple steps to help you get back in each other’s corner again.

  1. Stop – So many of our troubles at this time of year start because rather than responding to what’s happening we react. We fire right back at the moment we feel upset or triggered without taking a moment to stop and consider how we want to respond, or the consequences of our reaction. Take a pause…it could make all the difference.
  2. Breathe – Take a deep breath, and allow yourself to let go of some of the tension in your body. When we go into fight of flight mode our muscles tense in order to be ready to swing a right-hook, or run for the hills. Taking a deep breath and shaking out your body can release some of this tension and help you to relax.
  3. Ask yourself a question (or two)…(or three) – When we feel this way, it tends to be because we’ve attributed a meaning to our partner’s behavior (what they’ve said / not said / done / not done) that might not be in-line with the intention behind it. So ask yourself “What else could this mean?”, could there be another reason than the one you’ve got in your mind? The other question to ask yourself here is “What is my outcome?” what do you really want in this moment? Do you want to be right? Or Do you want to be happy? Do you want to fight? Or do you want to build a bridge with the person who is usually your biggest ally? The final question to ask yourself is “How do I REALLY want to deal with this?” Your reaction has the potential to create a battleground or a dance floor, to fire an attack or wave a white flag, to metaphorically slap them in the face or reach out to connect with them. This is your moment to choose how you show up, which has the ability to completely transform the situation.
  4. Apologise – At this point you may be a little confused. Apologise? But they’re the one who’s upset me! While that may be true…step back a little bit. Is there something that you’ve said or done (or not said or done) that might have caused a reaction in them? Might they have misinterpreted your actions or words? If you can see how they might be upset, apologise for your part in what’s happened, without reservation, and without bringing how you’re feeling into it (for now).  When you do this for another person, they go from attack and defend mode to putting both their weapons and their defences down. This is the first step towards working together to find a solution.
  5. Ask for their help – This situation could simply be happening because they don’t really know what you want or need, and how to give it to you…so the easiest way for them to be able to do this is for you to tell them. But barking instructions at them is probably not going to help them feel you’re on the same side. Instead ask for their help…ask for what you want and need, show them how to help and support you.
  6. Remind them (and most importantly yourself) that you’re on the same team – Remember that you’re on the same team.  Remind them (with kindness) that you’re on their team…and that you know that they’re on your team too. Just verbalising this can make such a difference to how you both perceive what’s going on. It might be a misunderstanding, it might be a difference of opinion, but if you’re on the same side, you can figure it out together.

When you’re on the same side, dealing with the stress of the season seems so much more manageable…and you know you’re not dealing with it alone. Navigating your way through the festive period can both pull you together, or tear you apart…choosing to be on the same team can make it more likely to be the former.

…but what if you do breakup?

If you do break up this time of year, there are a few things to bear in mind.

If the choice to separate wasn’t yours, then the other person has done you the favour of walking away from you. You want to be with someone who chooses you, who sees you, who values you…who wants to be with you. If this person has made another choice, you deserve more.

But knowing that doesn’t make the process of dealing with it any easier…so you might want to check out a couple of these articles to help you through the process:

The new year is a good time to move start afresh, to go through the process of letting go of the past and to begin to attract and create the relationship that you desire and deserve.

…and if you think the advice in this post could help someone you know, I would love for you take a few seconds to share it.

Would you like some help in navigating the annual breakup season?

Often when we’re dealing with relationship challenges, whether it’s stress, money, arguments, worries about trust or infidelity, it can be tough to do it on your own. It can feel isolating and lonely, especially when everyone around you seems to be enjoying a challenge-free festive season with their loved ones.

Or maybe you’re single and worried about how to enjoy the festivities without a special someone to share it with? Maybe you’re worried about the comments or questions from family about ‘When are you going to find someone?’ Maybe you’re just fed up of the thought of another Christmas and New Years Eve on your own?

So if you’d like to find out how I might be able to help you with your specific relationship concerns, worries or challenges at this time of year, then either send me an email: claire@lovepolarityandpassion.com or book a discovery session here to find out how you can avoid or reduce the relationship challenges that most people face at this time of year.

It can be a tough time to navigate, and it’s so much easier when you know you’re not doing it alone.

With Love,

Claire x

LPPTV Episode 24 - When Does 1+1 in a Relationship Not Equal 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

When Does 1+1 in a Relationship NOT Equal 2?

LPPTV Episode 24 - When Does 1+1 in a Relationship Not Equal 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionGenerally speaking we’ve come to expect that 1+1 equals 2.

So in the majority of monogamous relationships, it would be reasonable to expect that the same principe would apply.

But the reality is that in relationships 1+1 does not always equal 2.

Sometimes it equals 2.

Sometimes it equals 0.

Sometimes it equals way MORE than 2.

So how does this work?

How do you avoid 1+1 equalling 0?

…and how do you create a relationship where 1+1 adds up to WAY more than 2?

Watch the video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… The Relationships Where 1+1 = Way More Than 2 Are Where The Magic Is @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you ever had a situation like the one I described in the video? Have you had 1+1 that equals zero? Have you ever experienced what it’s like to have 1+1 add up to way more than 2? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 23 - Claire, Do You Ever Argue With Your Partner? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

Claire, Do You Ever Argue With Your Partner?

LPPTV Episode 23 - Claire, Do You Ever Argue With Your Partner? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionI’ve been working as a coach and mentor for a few years now, and I’ve been asked some interesting questions in that time.

I’ve been asked about dating, sex, unconventional relationships, you name it.

But a few months ago I was asked the question that stopped me dead in my tracks.

“Claire, Do You Ever Argue with Your Partner?”

I stopped, I laughed, and then I gave her my reply.

The honest truth is that I didn’t want to get in front of the camera today.

I didn’t want to record this video.

…and then I realised precisely why I needed to.

Today I share very openly about my own personal relationship, in a way that you won’t hear many relationship experts speaking.

So, the question is DO I ever argue with my partner?

Watch the video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… In Order To Take The Best Care Of Your Relationship, First Take Care Of Yourself @LovePPassion

.Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you ever had a situation like the one I described in the video? Have you noticed a time when you’re arguing more with your partner? Have you tried what I suggested in the video, and have you seen a difference? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 22 - Is Commitment Killing Your Relationship?

Is Commitment Killing Your Relationship?

LPPTV Episode 22 - Is Commitment Killing Your Relationship? In my experience, the majority of people at some point in their life will be looking for a long-term, committed relationship.

Someone to spend the rest of their days with.

Someone to grow old with.

Someone to share their life with.

Someone to marry.

Someone to have children with.

Someone who will be there forever.

We get told from the age we can understand words all about ‘happily ever after’, the holy grail of relationships.

…and most people, including relationship experts, will tell you that commitment is a good thing in a relationship.

So today, I’m going to be just a little bit controversial and say that commitment isn’t always a good thing.

In fact, commitment could be killing your relationship.

Want to know why? Watch the video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… If You Want Your Partner To Show Up Tomorrow, You Have To Show Up Today @LovePPassion

…and before you start wondering whether I am telling you NOT to be committed in a relationship, it’s not quite as simple as that. But what I will say that if you try what I’ve shared in the video, it has the capacity to transform your relationship completely. This has worked magic for several of my clients and has transformed my own relationship.

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you every considered whether commitment could be causing problems in your relationship? Do you recognise any of the situations I mentioned in the video? Have you been desperate to get commitment from your partner, and has it pushed them away? How did you deal with it? Have you tried what I talk about in the video? How did it change things for you? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 21 - Is there any such thing as the one

Is There Any Such Thing As ‘The One’?

LPPTV Episode 21 - Is there any such thing as the oneIs he the one for me?

Is she the one for me?

I have been asked by both the young and the old whether there is any such thing as ‘the one’.

In our culture, we seem to be fixated on finding ‘the one’, that one special person who is a perfect fit for us.

…and we tend to believe that if we find ‘the one’ that everything else will be relatively easy. If a relationship is challenging, we can assume that we’ve made a mistake, that they’re not ‘the one’ and therefore want to move on to someone else, afraid we’re wasting our time with the wrong person and that we might be missing out on finding our ‘one’.

I too was always trying to analyse if the person in my life was ‘the one’. For years, each relationship I was constantly checking, analysing, judging…was the person I had in front of me my ‘one’?

I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve had the conversation “Is there any such thing as the one?” and most people have asked themselves this question at some point or another, but rarely do they find an answer.

Have you always been on the look out for the right person? Have you been trying endlessly to find the perfect person to spend the rest of your life with? Is this causing any problems in your current relationship? And more importantly, are you being realistic?

Would you like to know if there’s one perfect person out there for you? Watch today’s video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… Rather than looking for the one, look for the right one for right now @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you been looking for the one?  Did you think it was possible to find the perfect person? Did this cause any problems in your relationship? Are you always trying to analyse the person who is with you and trying to find out if he/she is the perfect person? Has this ruined your relationship? Have you tried what I mentioned in the video? Did it work for you?  Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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The 5 most important things to help you deal with a broken heart…

heal broken heartBy now, I’m sure you know that during the course of my life I’ve had to face one of the more difficult challenges that life has to offer more than once…how to deal with a broken heart.

After going through the normal reaction involving tears, above average chocolate consumption and an extra glass of wine here and there, the question I asked myself was “How could this experience help the people that I work with?”

The answer I got was to share with you the 5 most important things to help you deal with a broken heart.

Heartbreak is never easy, always painful and can take some time, so finding ways to make the journey a little more bearable is important.  So, following on from last week’s “How to deal with a broken heart” here are are the 5 most important things to help make the journey a little easier:

1. Feel the emotion – It can be easy to put the barriers up, and close yourself off to try and protect yourself from the pain.  But by doing that you only end up hurting yourself in the long run.  It’s so important to stay open and feel the emotions fully as and when they come up, in order for you to then be able to let them go and begin to heal.  In order to make this a little easier try and remember to stay “R.E.A.L.”

Recognise – Recognise an emotion as it comes up, no judgment, just be aware of how you’re feeling and allow yourself to face it rather than finding some way to distract yourself or avoid it.

Experience – Let yourself feel the emotion completely.  Don’t hold back, just allow yourself to feel how you need to feel.  If you need to cry, cry, if you need to shout, shout, if you want to laugh, laugh…but allow yourself to experience the emotion fully.

Accept – Accept the way that things are.  The situation as it is and what has happened.  Give yourself permission to feel how you feel and accept that it’s ok to feel sad / angry / disappointed / upset or whatever it is that you’re feeling.

Let go – Release the emotion…let it go.  Once you’ve felt it there is no reason to hang onto it anymore, it won’t serve you to do so.

2. Take some space – When you go through a major life change like a breakup, it’s important to give yourself a bit of space.  If possible, don’t make any major decisions for a month or two, to allow yourself to adjust to the changes in your life.  Just give yourself a bit of space and time to feel what you need to feel, begin to heal and work out what you would like for yourself next.

3. Focus on you and your needs – As you no longer have to worry about a partner’s feelings, wants, needs or desires, now is the time to focus on you.  What do you want? What makes you happy?  What makes you smile?  What would you like to do?  I’m not talking about big-picture long-term stuff here, I’m talking about day-to-day, what would make you feel good?  Work out what it is, and make sure that you are meeting your needs and wants.  Whether that’s a walk in the country, a night out dancing, some cave time, or an indulgent day to pamper yourself.

4. Let others be there for you – If you are lucky enough to have people around you who care for you and want to be there for you, let them.  If they were going through a tough time you would want to be able to support them, so let them do the same for you.  Having people around who care about you, even if its just company while you watch a film, can really help.  …and if they give great hugs, even better 🙂

5. Be Kind to yourself – Be gentle with yourself.  Don’t expect yourself to feel instantly better overnight.  Allow yourself the time and space you need to heal…and treat yourself kindly on the journey.

I know firsthand how difficult dealing with heartbreak can be…as you know by now, I’ve faced it a number of times.

But believe me, if you can remember these 5 important things it will make the journey a little easier…and someday soon, after a bit of time for you, you’ll be ready to love again.

With Love,

Claire x

LPPTV Episode 20 - How Can You Travel Together Without Ruining Your Relationship? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Do You Travel Together Without Ruining Your Relationship?

LPPTV Episode 20 - How Can You Travel Together Without Ruining Your Relationship? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionI don’t know about you, but I can’t tell you about the number of trips that I’ve been on where a problem with the person I’ve been travelling with has really put a dampener on the trip.

Whether that person was a friend, a family member, a partner or even a stranger I met while on my trip, I can remember challenges with pretty much all of them at some time or another.

I can vividly recall (much to my embarrassment now) arguments in Epcot Centre in Orlando, on the streets of Prague and countless other destinations over the years.

…and unfortunately I’m not alone.

From a recent piece of research, it was discovered that when travelling with a partner, 79% of people have at least 2 big fights on a trip, 62% fight daily and for a shocking 12% of couples the problems on a trip caused a relationship to end.

I’ve also been in that last group too.

But why does travelling with someone else create such challenges?  Well, when you’re together, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, it puts a magnifying glass on your relationship.  The good stuff gets better…and the challenges, well, they can seem overwhelming.

So when someone asked me how you can travel with someone, friend, family member, partner, or even someone you’ve just met, without it ruining both your trip and your relationship…and even how the experience of travel can improve your relationship, I had to record an episode of LPPTV to share with you.

So how do you travel together without ruining your relationship?  Watch the video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… In Order To Prevent Challenges When Travelling Make Sure You Communicate @LovePPassion

…and if you’re planning a trip with someone and want even more tips and advice on how travelling together can enhance and improve your trip and your relationship, click here now to see the videos I mention above.

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you ever travelled with someone else?  How did it go? Was it smooth sailing? Or did you have some problems? Has travelling with someone else ruined a trip? Or a relationship? Have you tried what I mentioned in the video? Did it work for you?  Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 19 - Why The Grass Is Never Greener - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

Why The Grass Is Never Greener…

LPPTV Episode 19 - Why The Grass Is Never Greener - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionI’ve been there, and I’m sure you have too.

For whatever reason, your current relationship situation isn’t quite working out the way you want it to.

Maybe you’re in a relationship and having some problems.

Maybe you’re single and not enjoying it.

Maybe you’ve changed how you feel about the person you’re with.

You look around you at the other people in your life – family, friends, colleagues, even strangers – and we see what they have, and it seems so much better.

Maybe they’re single and you love the idea of all the freedom they seem to have.

Maybe they’re in a relationship that seems to be wonderful, and better than any you’ve ever experienced.

Maybe they’re having an affair and seem to be having the best of both worlds.

We look and it seems like the grass is greener in their field.

I see this all the time, this concept causes people to end their relationship and later regret it, jump into relationships that aren’t right for them, just so they’re not single any more, or choose to cheat on their partner.

But I’m here to tell you that the grass is NEVER greener.

How can I be so sure?  Watch the video now to find out…

Tweet the Love… The Grass Is Always Greener Where You Water It @LovePPassion

…and before I get a raft of comments asking if I’m saying that you should never leave a relationship, or give up your single life, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t do either of these things.  What I’m saying is before you do, consider both sides of both coins, and make sure the choice you make really is the right one for you.

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you ever looked at what someone else has and thought ‘I want that’? Has it led you to make a hasty choice, that you’ve since regretted? Have you jumped into another field to find that the grass isn’t greener, it’s just a different shade of green? Or have you changed your approach to your own relationship, and seen your own grass get greener?  Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, is there a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV? What is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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