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LPPTV Episode 17 - Why Do Women Ignore Me? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

Why Do Women Ignore Me?

LPPTV Episode 17 - Why Do Women Ignore Me? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionIn the last episode of LPPTV we looked at a question which I hear from a lot of women.  This week I wanted to do an episode which speaks specifically to men.

While the issue that I talk about today affects both men and women, this question was sent into me from a man who wanted some help.

There’s nothing worse than feeling invisible or ignored.

Unless it’s by someone who you’re attracted to.

If you’re a man who is looking to date and connect with a woman, feeling like she doesn’t even know or care that you’re there can be at best uncomfortable and at worst crushing.

The worst thing about this kind of situation is that most of the time we don’t know why.

Is it about them?

Is it about us?

What can we do to change it?

So when I got this question through I am not successful and I don’t have my life together. so women always ignore me. I am 28 years old and I have no career I am stuck I need your help.” I had to do an episode of LPPTV to respond.

What do you do when it feels like women are ignoring you?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… When You Feel Good About You You Become Naturally Attractive To Others @LovePPassion

…and if after watching the video you would like to find out more about coaching and mentoring with me, then click here for more information

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever felt ignored by members of the opposite sex? How did it feel? Have you found that when you feel good about yourself that you are more attractive to people around you? Have you felt stuck in life and found that it was showing up in your relationships and dating life too? Do you agree with what I’ve shared in the video? Has this been your experience of relationships? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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The Big Virtual Detox With Rachel Swann - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

What’s The One Tip That Can Transform Any Type Of Relationship?

The Big Virtual Detox With Rachel Swann - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionThis is the time when normally I would be sharing my weekly LPPTV episode, but this week I want to share something a little bit different.

You see this week I was asked by the lovely Rachel Swann to join her on her Big Virtual Detox to share some advice for everyone on relationships.

I do these kinds of interviews, webinars and tele seminars on a regular basis, but when Rachel asked me what was the one piece of advice I could give that could help someone to improve any relationship, I had to share the answer I gave with you.

So what’s the one tip that can transform any type of relationship?  Watch the video now to find out:

…and if you’d like to catch the rest of the interviews in the Big Virtual Detox, click here now to check them out.

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What’s the best piece of relationship advice you’ve ever heard? What’s the one thing that you’d really like to get some help with? What’s the one thing that’s transformed a relationship situation for you? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 16 - How Do I Keep Him? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Do I Keep Him?

LPPTV Episode 16 - How Do I Keep Him? - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionI don’t know any woman who hasn’t had this thought at some point in her life.

You’re dating a man that you think is amazing.

He has all of the qualities that you’re looking for in your ideal partner.

You feel happy around him.

You believe this could be ‘The One’.

The only thing that is worrying you is, how can I make sure that he stays?

What can I do to keep him in my life?

How can I ensure that he continues to want me?

You don’t want to lose him, so what can you do?

So I was really pleased when I got this question through from Anna “Hi Claire, I’m always quite reserved with compliments, but I must say your work is always greatly appreciated, you’re doing a truly amazing job. You give hope for women like me that perhaps one man will stay in my life forever.  I’m now dating two guys, I know which one my heart is pumping towards too, but I’ve no idea how to keep him.  Secretly I want him to be mine for the rest of my life, but I do not know how to make the guys commit. I suppose I’ve always been useless with relationships. My parents say they doubt about if he’s the right man for me, do I need to listen and is it their place to voice their opinion to me?

So how do you keep him?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… Rather Than Trying to Keep Him Focus On Being The Woman The Right Man Will Adore @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever tried to keep a man? How did it feel? Did it work? Have you been focused on how to keep him, and actually found him moving further away?  Are you a man? Do you agree with what I’ve shared in the video? Has this been your experience of women and relationships? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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What is feminine not?

What Is Feminine Not?

What is feminine not?When people learn the name of my website, one of the first questions I get asked is ‘What is Polarity?’

Having answered this question in Episode 6 of LPPTV, the next two questions tend to come quite quickly. Having learned that polarity is the natural attraction between the masculine and the feminine, the next obvious questions are ‘what is feminine’ and ‘what is masculine’?

But before I answer the question ‘what is feminine’ it’s important to answer the question what is feminine not.

When most people think of the word feminine, they tend to bring to mind concepts and images that don’t reflect the reality of femininity, and are often very negative. There are so many misperceptions about what the word feminine actually means, and I think it’s important that we address these up front.

Over the last couple of decades, the word feminine (unless referring to the latest Ralph Lauren line) hasn’t always been seen as the most flattering description for a woman.

A few summers ago when Susan Walsh suggested that women “try on” femininity for a short while to see how it fitted, one woman remarked that she saw being described as the most feminine member of staff at her place of work insulting as she believed that feminine = weak and that it meant that she wasn’t being taken seriously.

Does Feminine = Weak?

So let’s start with weakness.  Feminine has about as much to do with weakness as Manolo Blahnik has to do with aubergines.  In fact, a genuinely feminine woman who is connected to her femininity is incredibly powerful; feminine strength just presents itself in a different way to masculine strength.  Masculine strength comes from tension and contraction whereas feminine strength comes from flow and flexibility.  A feminine woman is a force of nature.  Watch a feminine woman walk into a room and ask any man in there whether femininity is weakness, and you’ll get your answer.

Does Feminine = Submission?

Another common misperception is that being feminine involves being submissive and appeasing people around you (especially men).  If you look at the definition of submission in the dictionary it talks about ‘yielding to a superior force’. Again, nothing could be further from the truth. There is no better or worse when it comes to the masculine and feminine, they are equal and opposite to each other, each have their unique strengths and weaknesses. So the feminine is complementary to the masculine, not inferior to it in any way shape or form. Connecting with the feminine is about being true to yourself, finding your inner feminine strength and self respect and bringing the best of who you naturally are to complement the masculine in both yourself, and in those around you.

Does Feminine = Pink and Fluffy?

I’ve also heard several women say that being feminine is about being girly, pink and fluffy, or replicating old-fashioned domesticity.  Every time I hear femininity described in this way, it is always followed up with a comment along the lines of “but that’s not who I am”.  Femininity comes from the inside out;  it’s not something that you ‘put on’ in order to give an appearance, it has nothing to do with any colour, style of dress, accessories, hair styles or make up.  Femininity is only true femininity when it’s totally authentic.

Does Feminine = Non-Feminist?

Let’s be clear about this.  Feminism is all about equality.  Femininity has nothing to do with refuting equality, in fact I’m a fully subscribed feminist, and I’m a very feminine woman.  The reason so many people believe that femininity and feminism can’t co-exist is that they’ve misunderstood equal to be ‘The Same’.  Men and women are not the same, we are equal and opposite. Masculine is no better or worse, stronger or weaker than feminine, they’re just different.  They are equal and opposite, like many forces in nature, the positive and negative on a battery, the north and south on a magnet, day and night, light and dark. None of these is stronger or weaker without the other, and neither part of any pair can exist without the other.  The same is true of masculinity and femininity.  So can you be feminine and a feminist? Oh yes.

Does Feminine = Anti-men?

Being anti-men is not pro-women, in fact, being anti-anyone and everyone loses.  Femininity is nothing to do with being anti-men, in fact a feminine woman has great respect for the men in her life, as a masculine man has great respect for the women in his life.

So I’d like to hear from you now.  What comes to YOUR mind when you hear the word feminine or femininity?  Have you ever thought that feminine was weak? Or Submissive? Or against feminism? Or Pink and Fluffy? What have your experiences of femininity been? What are your questions about femininity?

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Finally, if you’d like some free tips and advice on how to improve your relationship situation, pop over here now and check out our free video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship”

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 15 - Should I Listen To Other People About My Relationship - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

Should I Listen To Other People About My Relationship?

LPPTV Episode 15 - Should I Listen To Other People About My Relationship - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWe all have people in our lives who care about us, and they want the best for us.

When we’re having challenges in our relationship it can be helpful to get some outside opinions and advice to help guide us through it.

But what happens if the advice doesn’t quite match up with what we wanted to hear?

…or if our friends and family decide to start sharing their opinion when we’d rather they kept them to themselves and let us figure it out on our own?

Should we listen to the advice of others when it comes to our relationship, or should we go it alone?

I know that there have been times when people have shared with me when I really wish they’d kept their thoughts to themselves, likewise there were times when I wanted advice when people didn’t tell me what they thought.

So I was really pleased when someone sent in this question to Love Polarity & Passion:  My parents say they doubt about if he’s the right man for me, do I need to listen and is it their place to voice their opinion to me?

So should you listen to others about your relationship?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… The Only Opinion That Matters When It Comes To Your Relationship Is Yours @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever had unwelcome advice or opinions from other people about your relationship? Or have you been on the other side where you really want to tell someone how you feel about their relationship but didn’t know how? How do you feel now you’ve watched the video?  Have you set boundaries with parents, friends or colleagues as to what is and isn’t OK for them to share?  Would you like to know more about setting boundaries? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 14 - How Can I Be Less Needy In Relationships - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Can I Be Less Needy In Relationships?

LPPTV Episode 14 - How Can I Be Less Needy In Relationships - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWe’re all aware that neediness is not generally a very attractive quality in relationships.

At some point in our lives we’ve all experienced neediness.

We’ve either been with someone who felt insatiable when it came to their needs, it didn’t matter how much we did or how much we gave it didn’t seem enough.

Or we’ve been the person who was desperate to get or feel something from someone else, but they never seemed able to give it to us.

I’ve been on both sides of this equation at various points in my life, and there’s no perspective from which this feels good.

Either you feel that you can’t do anything to make your partner happy, or you want to feel something that never seems to appear.

So what is it that makes someone ‘needy’ in a relationship, and how can you be less needy when it comes to relationships?

So today I’m answering a question from Swets: “How can I be a less needy female?

Well the reality is that neediness shows up in men AND women, and the answer applies to both of them.

So how can you be less needing in relationships?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… In Order To Be Less Needy, Learn How To Meet Your Own Needs @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you felt needy in relationships at times?  How do you feel about it now you’ve watched the video?  Have you been with someone who felt very needy?  How did it feel to be with someone who felt needy?  Have you tried what I suggested in the video? How did it change things? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 13 - Have You Given Up Your Passions For The Person You're Passionate About - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

Have You Given Up Your Passions For The Person You’re Passionate About?

LPPTV Episode 13 - Have You Given Up Your Passions For The Person You're Passionate About - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

We all know that passion in a relationship is important.

We want that spark that turns into a flame, which turns into fireworks.

When we begin seeing someone new, it’s easy for our passion for them to take over our lives a little bit.  We want to spend every moment with them, we want to enjoy all the time we can because the feeling they inspire us feels so great.

The challenge with this is that in doing so, we can sometimes lose sight of our own passions.

We can be so focused on our passion for the other person, and for the relationship, that our individual passions can take a back seat.

I know, I’ve done this many times in the past.

So the question is, is being passionate about your partner enough?

So today I’m answering the first part of a question from Jim: In relationships, how important is it to be passionate about something in your life (and not the other person in life)? I am/was in a relationship (I am trying to salvage it by doing some self-discovering) and would always find time for them, to be together, mostly helping her. She’s a driven entrepreneur that enjoys her alone time. She is passionate about flying, and a few other things, and she asks me my passions, and I reply, I don’t know. Now, I do have plenty of passions, (hiking, golf, fishing, flying,) and plenty of things on my bucket list (driving a race car, surfing,…), but I’ve just never acted on them. I’ve always put the other person first or my family first, sacrificing my needs (buying a boat for fishing or skiing, going on fishing trips alone, etc). Now I’m divorced and trying to have another relationship, but have stumbled on this “what am I passionate about” question.”

Do you need to have your own passions in a relationship?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… How You Treat Yourself Is How You Are Inviting Others To Treat You, You Set The Standards@LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever found yourself putting your needs, interests and passions second for the sake of your partner and your relationship? How did that work out? How has keeping your passions alive affected your relationship? Has your partner shared that they want you to maintain your own passions? Maybe you don’t know what your passions are and how to discover them? Has the video brought up any questions?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 12 - How Can You Get Comfortable Talking To Attractive People - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Can You Get Comfortable With Talking To Attractive People?

LPPTV Episode 12 - How Can You Get Comfortable Talking To Attractive People - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWe’ve all been there.

You see someone across a room who’s really attractive, but the very thought of going up to them and starting a conversation leaves your mouth dry, your palms sweaty and your heart feeling like it’s about to leap out of your chest.

I don’t know about you, but this was something I experienced over and over and over again when I was dating.

Every time I found someone attractive I became a babbling mess around them.  I wasn’t known for my shyness, but if I saw a man I liked, my nerves took over.

In fact, when I saw someone who I thought was attractive, I’d go out of my way to avoid them because the thought of talking to them made me so nervous!

So when I saw this question posed in a Facebook group that I’m a resident relationship expert for, I realised how important it was to share how I’d overcome this challenge, and how I get my clients to do the same: WHY is it sometimes HARDER to talk with very ATTRACTIVE people… WHY does self doubt or shyness kick in and how the heck does one combat this in order to become a Master Communicator that “can talk to anyone about anything”?

How can you get comfortable with talking to attractive people?  Watch the video now to find out:

Tweet the Love… When You Start Talking To Everyone, You Can Then Talk To Anyone @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever found it difficult to talk to someone because you saw them as attractive? Have you had any stories to share where your nerves took over and got in the way of connecting with someone you liked? I’d love for you to try out the exercise I share in the video and share your experiences in the comments section. Or maybe when you give it a go you’ll have some questions to share.

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

…and if you’d like to watch the previous episodes of LPPTV about rejection that I mention in the video, you can find them here: Why is rejection awesome? & What does rejection really mean?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 11 - How To Compromise Without Compromising Yourself - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

How Do You Compromise In Relationships Without Compromising Yourself?

LPPTV Episode 11 - How To Compromise Without Compromising Yourself - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionWhen the topic of conflict in relationships comes up, the other ‘C’ word is often not far behind.

Compromise.

The challenge with compromise is that it often brings with it a feeling of needing to ‘give something up’, losing something, or compromising who we are and it can often leave us feeling a bit resentful.

When you look at some of the dictionary definitions associated with compromise, it’s no surprise that we can feel that way when we’re looking at “the expedient acceptance of standards that are lower than is desirable.”

Standards that are lower than desirable, hmm, I wonder why we’re not so keen on taking that path?!

So what happens when we have a difference of opinion, we want different things, or our needs conflict?  How do we navigate through that without feeling like we’re losing out?

The question is, “How Do You Compromise Without Compromising Yourself?”

Tweet the Love… When You Know Your Individual Ideals, You Can Find What’s Ideal For The Relationship @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

Have you felt resentful in the past when ‘needing to compromise’? Have you felt that you’ve compromised yourself? What situations have you felt that you ‘should’ compromise in? How would this approach change your feeling about compromising? What do you think about this new approach to challenging situations? Would this help you deal with future situations of this nature? Have you ever tried to do this and found challenges?  Have you any questions about this?

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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LPPTV Episode 10 - What Do You Do If A Guy Or Girl Suddenly Loses Interest? Part 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and Passion

What’s The Second Thing You Do When Someone Suddenly Loses Interest?

LPPTV Episode 10 - What Do You Do If A Guy Or Girl Suddenly Loses Interest? Part 2 - Claire Brummell, The Relationist, Love Polarity and PassionLast week I began to answer a question that I get asked all the time….what do you do if a guy or girl suddenly loses interest?

It happens all the time, things seem to be going really well and all of a sudden something changes, but you’ve no idea why.

I’ve already share the first step with you (if you haven’t seen it yet, before to check it out here BEFORE you watch the video below), and it’s so important that you begin with this first step before you do step 3 in today’s video.

It’s a bit like making a cake.

If you add the ingredients in the right order, you’ll get a nice cake that you can enjoy.

If, however, you put the cake in the oven before you’ve added the eggs and sugar, the chances are that it won’t give you the best cake possible.

It’s not that the ingredients aren’t right, but the sequence is important…and the same is true in relationships.  In this situation, you can do steps 1 and 2 in any order you like…but wait for step 3 until you’ve done them!

Want to know more?  Check out the second part of my answer to the question: “What do you do if a guy or girl suddenly loses interest?”

Tweet the Love… When You’ve Got Clarity From Them, Give Clarity Back @LovePPassion

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What has your experience of this been? Have you had a new relationship go from ‘foot on the gas’ to being shoved into reverse? What do you think of steps 2 and 3? Would these help you deal with future situations like this? Have you ever tried to do this and found challenges?  Have you any questions about this?  

Or, ask me a question that you would like me to answer on a future episode of LPPTV, what is the one thing you’d like to know? What is the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationship situation right now?

Please share with as much detail as you can because your insight and questions may provide a breakthrough for someone else and I guarantee if you’re thinking it, someone else is too and they could benefit from you having the courage to share your thoughts and questions.

Thank you in advance for having the courage to share and being kind and understanding in the comments.

…and if you haven’t already, be sure to get your hands on the FREE video series “The First Steps to Transforming Any Relationship” by clicking here now.

Wishing You Love,

Claire x

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