Last week I started answering the question “What IS Feminine and what does it look like” and we covered the first four aspects: Flow, Emotionally Connected, Making Connections & Inspiring.
This week, we finish with the final four aspects of the feminine:
People who are more feminine at core are at their heart nurturers…but this doesn’t mean that we all need to have children, or spend our afternoons tending flowerbeds!
Our feminine nurturing nature can be applied in any area of life…it is about supporting and helping to inspire growth in both ourselves and those around us. It’s about caring for, supporting and protecting someone throughout a time of growth and development. That could be you, your partner, a friend, a family member, staff, pretty much anyone.
It can be important, especially in the area of adult intimate relationships, to understand the difference between nurturing and mothering, because without this clarity the lines can be very much blurred.
Mothering often comes from a place of ‘I know best, and I need to protect you from yourself,’ this approach can feel controlling, constricting and patronising. Nurturing on the other hand comes from a place of ‘I care about you, and I will support you in the way that you want and need support, not in the way that I want to.’
It respects another’s choices and decisions, and supports them through their journey rather than trying to direct the path that they ‘should’ take (based on the other person’s perspective and opinion). Nurturing brings together a beautiful combination of welcome support and allowing.
Everyone has heard of female (or feminine) intuition – tales of it are legendary! But it doesn’t have to be attributed to some form of supernatural ability.
The feminine has a very expanded awareness, we are ‘omni-aware,’ meaning that we are simultaneously aware of the huge range of elements and subtleties in both our external and internal worlds.
Unfortunately our conscious mind doesn’t have the capacity to be able to process all that we’re aware of consciously, so our intuition is often a blend of awareness, knowledge and experience. So many connections are made at a subconscious level that we don’t understand WHY we have the feeling that we do, just that something feels right, or not.
At times I’m sure that we’ve all had a gut instinct about something, often that we couldn’t actually explain or rationalise, it could be that we’re connecting with some sort of “higher ability” or it could just be your subconscious is aware of things that your conscious mind hasn’t been able to process. Either way, if it serves you and steers you in the right direction, then allow yourself to follow it.
Femininity comes from a place of complete and total authenticity. As a feminine person it is about getting back to who you naturally are at your core, embracing and embodying it completely.
Being feminine is owning, honouring and celebrating the real you, from the heart, and sharing it with the world. It’s not about looking, or acting a certain way or wearing certain things. It’s about being you, through and through, inside and out, and recognising how beautiful that is.
It’s really getting in touch with who you are inside, with your ‘essence,’ and allowing that to radiate out. As such femininity is connected more to being than it is to doing. In our busy, ever-seeking masculine oriented culture, where we’re always looking to do more, achieve more, be more there is this constant feeling that we need to be ‘doing’ something to get ‘there,’ wherever our current goal resides.
The feminine, contrarily, is all about being, here, now, present. Breathing and being. Recognising that you’re enough, right here, right now, that you don’t need to do anything more, or be anything more. You were enough the second you were born and you have been, are and will be enough every second of your life. So nothing else is needed, nothing else is necessary, you can relax and just be who you naturally are.
Energy is where the spark is added to the mix. This is where our sense of strength, passion and real feminine power comes from. A person who is feminine at core is an absolute force of nature.
They don’t seek out power, or need to prove themselves, and when they’re really in their element there is absolutely no need for either.
You can feel the flow of feminine power coursing through you, and every single person you meet can feel it too. This comes from connecting with all of the different types of energy that are the life-blood of the feminine; Loving, sensual, passionate, playful, intense, light, dark, sad, joyful, embracing and expressing them all.
How can we do this? Through connecting to the pleasure of our sensuality, igniting all of our senses and then embracing and expressing the energy that this connects us to.
We can connect to our sense of being playful, childlike and having fun with life! Not taking ourselves so seriously!
We can connect to our sense of wonder that life held when you were a child and bringing that joy and ability to appreciate the little things into your everyday life.
We can connect to our sense of intensity, our sense of passion, our sense of love and allow ourselves to express the feelings and energy that they produce in our bodies.
By allowing ourselves to live life through being present to the rich, multi-sensory experiences we are capable of, through vivid colours, exquisite textures, luscious aromas, intriguing sounds and delectable flavours we can connect to the energy inside ourselves.
Through connecting to and allowing the pleasure in every experience, we ignite the energy within.
The feminine has all of these of traits and aspects to it but primarily femininity is a feeling. When we connect to the feminine part of ourselves it brings with it a feeling of relaxation, of expansion, of receptivity, of lusciousness, of our senses and bodies being alive and radiating through everything we are.
And the question now is – what’s YOUR experience of being feminine?
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Wishing You Love,